This is it? A final countdown?

How in the world am I suppose to plan a wedding when I have work to do? Oh Lordy, insane! Work has gone crazy this week with interviews, training, employee relations conversations and just about everything else that can get sqeezed into the week before I get married. And then cake bakers, caterers, and other wedding vendors call to check in on things, ask a last minute question or verify plans. Holy headspin!

Carlos’ family starts arriving on Monday so he and I are going to spend this weekend doing a loooooonnnngggg list of things for around the house.

My 1st trial spray tan went well. I feel like it’s more of a I had another doctor appointment for my stomach and they said there was about a tablespoon of fluid, at most. I opted not get stuck with another needle again, because I hate needles and because my stomach is starting to bruise where the needles go in. I guess I’m getting sensitive in my old age? Leaving a little of the fluid isn’t a dangerous choice – most times, the fluid goes away on it’s own. I can’t tell it’s there, my stomach isn’t hard like it was when I first went in but….


The nurse told me I should take a few days off from working out. Eck. Let’s be honest, I want to work out every day between now and the wedding but I don’t need any more reason than someone telling me I shouldn’t, to not. The nurse said taking a few days off from working out will allow the pocket of fluid in my stomach to firm back up. She mentioned just like when I had my first surgery, movement takes away from the healing because every time I move, I pull and tug. My appointment was on Tuesday so I figure I’ll get back into the gym on Friday. (I didn’t work out Monday as well, so that would be Monday-Thursday which I think is good enough for a “few days.”)

I stopped Wednesday night at my sister, Heidi’s – she is helping me MAKE MY VEIL! I found one I absolutely loved while dress shopping but it was $200. No way was I going to spend that much on something I would only wear for a few hours, on my head. A few days later, I happened to be a Joann Fabrics and walked past the bridal fabrics and there was the exact same fabric w/ designs from the veil earlier!

I had a coupon on me for 40% off a yard of fabric, so I bought a yard of it and it was only $12.99. Heidi helped me hem the bottom of it and cinch the top part together. Tonight, I’ll hand sew it to a jeweled hair comb and voilà! I might go into a veil making business after this, it is so easy and much less expensive!

The only things I have left are:

  • Final dress fitting (Friday)
  • Print dinner seating cards (waiting until last minute because of last minute changes)
  • Finish wedding favors (food related, waiting until last minute)
  • Song sequence for ceremony (songs picked, just need to get them into a play list & queued up)
  • Meet with photographer one last time (Saturday)
  • Print directions from house to hotel, house to wedding, hotel to wedding

I think that’s it — anything else last minute I might forget?

Mentally, I’ve calmed down a lot. Much more calm compared to the end of July – oh man, I was just a mess!

After the wedding is done, Carlos really wants to get both he and I back into the gym into personal training. As much as I am looking forward to the wedding, saying I DO, and having so much family time the week of the wedding, I also look forward to settling into our new life together. This is goign to be the best forever after EVER!

A perfect weekend goal (and a 2 week surgery picture!)

Can you believe it’s been two weeks already since my surgery?

I still have no major pains although I am starting to feel discomfort after days when I’ve been too active. Toward the end of long days, I feel tired quicker and my back feels like a sunburn.

I’ve been wearing a compression garment still and have a check-up on Tuesday. I anticipate I’ll be able to stop wearing the compression garment after that. My incision scar still looks really good – it’s much thinner and not as read as the incision lines on my arms and stomach. It is still swollen but looks much better post-two weeks compared to the other incisions did. Here is a picture:

The above picture isn’t with really natural light – I think had it been day time, the incision wouldn’t look so raised.

This past week has been a good week. My boss and co-worker are on spring break so I’ve been holding down the HR Office. It’s been fairly busy this week which I like but I’m excited for them to come back next week. It’s been so quite in the office, it’s hard to actually concentrate. Despite having a massive to-do list, without a lot of external noise, I often struggle to concentrate. Sound weird? I know.

This weekend, we are celebrating Easter at my sister, Heidi’s house on Saturday evening. Sunday morning, Carlos and I are meeting my uncle Dean for brunch, to talk wedding, and catch up in general. Other than those two plans, my goal is to catch up on some recorded t.v. shows and read. That’s it, that’s all.

RELAX. My goal is to RELAX. That sounds like a perfect weekend goal, right?

What’s your perfect weekend goal?

Engagement Photos (a wedding update)

Engagement photos.

I almost didn’t do them.

I didn’t know what to do with them, had no intention of using them so wasn’t sure I wanted to waste our time and the photographers time taking photos. Since my surgery in November left me somewhat immobile, we decided to wait a few months which put us in the dead of what was suppose to be a Minnesota winter. I had no visions for our engagement photos so the thought of taking photos outside in white fluffy snow made no difference to me. In February, I started getting antsy and decided I wanted photos – I wanted to capture who we were, now, before we got married. I wanted to capture the love we feel for each other. I wanted to capture us.

Unfortunately, Minnesota has gotten a very limited amount of snow this winter leaving everything brown and dead-looking. Not picturesque. We tried to wait it out, hoping for a huge snow storm but got nothing.

So we did it anyway. We wanted very non-traditional. No hand-holding in a forest. No cheesy sitting next to each other, smiling & looking at the camera. No poses.

We went mid-week, after work. Instead of going to a park, or somewhere flowery, we went uptown. To the alleys. To the streets. To the restaurant where we had our first date.

And then, well, we just acted like us.

For more engagement photos, click HERE. Special thanks to Stuart, our photographer, who both Carlos and I highly recommend.

Wedding countdown: five months!

A walk through our venue (a wedding update)

When we first got engaged, my sister Alicia sent me the website for Five Event Center. After scoping out the website, I forwarded it to Carlos and said “this is where we are getting married.”

No question. I told him if he didn’t like it, I’d find someone else to marry me. HA! Luckily, he loved Five Event Center as much as I did.

We set up a walk through and within a week, we had signed the contract. That was over a year ago. Since then, I’ve looked at the website often, drooling over the photos but we haven’t gone back.

Until last week.

We met our photographer, Stuart, at the Five Event Center so he could also check the place out and start getting ideas of pictures. As I walked around, I tried to imagine what it would be like, a little over 5 months from now, as I float thru the day wearing my wedding dress. I tried to imagine what it’d be like surrounded by 150 of our loved friends and family. I tried to imagine what it would be like saying I do to Carlos.

Stuart LOVED it – he was like a kid in a candy store, exploring all the corners and bold colors.

I got teary-eyed a few times – I’m such an emotional, sensitive sap!

I’ve got some paperwork I have to fill out for Stuart so he knows what kind of photos to take, the time frame, immediate family members and other important photography details. I admit I’ve had the paperwork for over two months and am slightly overwhelmed going through it. So much detail, so much reminder that mom isn’t here and won’t be in the photographs. I find myself procrastinating because I simply don’t want to go through the process.

But then, I see Carlos and know how much my mom loved him. And I know he and I, our wedding, our marriage is all that is really important.

Tonight after work, Carlos and I are going to take our engagement photos. After the sun sets. Downtown. It’ll be perfectly us.

I know our engagement and wedding photos are going to be beautiful, timeless and capture the love we have for each other and the love we will be surrounded with. I know our special day will be perfect, with mom in her front-row seat from heaven cheering as we say I do.