I’m okay, you’re okay – WE ARE OKAY.

No matter how frustrated I get.
No matter how many times I feel like I’ve failed at this whole healthiness thing.
No matter how often I struggle.

I still know that I am okay. I have an amazing husband and an amazing little boy who is growing way too quickly.

My weight does not define me. My struggles do not imply that I should just give up. Being healthy isn’t just something we can do, check the box, and be done with. For so many people, including myself, being healthy will be lifelong. I will never just “be healthy.”

Every day is a new opportunity to try, try again. Every day, I wake up with good intent. And while good intent doesn’t automatically translate to everything working out like I had planned, I am so thankful that despite my failures, I have not given up.

I can only imagine how it can be from an outsider. This blog has been here for TEN YEARS. And what have I accomplished in ten years? A lot, actually. I am not perfect, I struggle. But I am okay. We are all okay, despite whatever we are struggling with.


  1. I keep telling myself “I am ok. I can do this. I am capable. I am strong.” Some days it works, some it doesn’t. Some days I feel like I can conquer mountains and others I feel like disappearing. It has been 11 years since I started exercising regularly. In that time, I’ve done a lot. I got divorced, I dated for the first time in my life, I lost 110lb, I moved three times, bought a house, lost my mother, got remarried, and changed jobs three times. I’ve been a source of pride and admiration, an inspiration, and I’ve also been a failure. But even in my worst times, my darkest moments, I somehow how found a way to (eventually) get back up and try again. I am strong. You are strong. WE are strong. Keep doing you, Jen. And please keep posting.

    • Bridgette says:

      Oh Hannah, you have definitely been thru a lot in the last decade. Everyone has a story and whether this story is great and uncomplicated or sad and challenging, it all comes down to attitude. If your life is the latter, being able to learn from mistakes or if out of your control, learn how you can better handle these kinds of situations so if they happen again, you’re better prepared. It certainly sounds like during even your hardest of days, you were able to get yourself thru them positively and successfully…that’s something to be really really proud of. Comments like yours are why I love reading the comment sections on social media.. whether it’s blogs or IG/FB/SC or YouTube there are always people I can learn from, after sorting thru the negative, trolling jackasses of course lol Thanks for sharing your story with us Hannah 🙂

  2. Erin Leigh says:

    Like you said, you’re doing fine, you will be fine. I tell my students this a lot, incidents happen to all of is but it’s what we do most often that matters. A treat meal here and there, the occasional missed work out it’s never going to add up, the trick is to not let our brains mis-fire and tell us it’s the ‘end of the world’. Everything is going to be okay. Just do what you can each that you can.

    P.S. I think you’ve shared these things with us too.
    P.S.S. Late to the party, but it’s fun that you are blogging again.

  3. From this outsider you look normal (genuine, real etc). Keep fighting the fight.

  4. I LOVE THIS!!!! Everyday is a new day!!!

  5. What a heartwarming post Jen. Life happens. There will always be another challenge, another roadblock, another detour, etcetera. Your intentions are heartfelt and that is what makes you a phenomenal individual. Enjoy your life!

  6. Wonderful post, Jen.

  7. You are okay. And you already have many of your answers. Here’s to doing what you need to do.

    Here’s to stopping what you know doesn’t work. The answer is inside all of us. Nothing a nice round of critical thinking and habit change can’t reverse, each and every day. Onward.

  8. Michelle Hill says:

    It’s the middle of the night, I can’t sleep, and somehow your blog popped into my mind. I remembered that you handed out over a few years ago, but v wanted to see if there were any updates on YOU! What a beautiful surprise to see that you and Carlos gave become parents. I just wanted you to know that I’m rooting for you…still.

  9. Michelle says:

    It’s the middle of the night, I can’t sleep, and somehow your blog popped into my mind. Weird, right? I remembered that you handed it over a few years ago, but wanted to see if there were any updates on YOU! What a beautiful surprise to see that you and Carlos have become parents. I just wanted you to know that I’m rooting for you…still.

  10. Your weight and the size of your body are probably the LEAST important measures of health, happiness, and “success” (whatever that word means anyway) and yet society tells us to focus exclusively on those markers. Give yourself the love and compassion that you’d give a friend or family member and remember that you are SO MUCH more than the number on a scale or a clothing tag. Sending happy energy and my strong belief that you are perfect just as you are!

  11. Bridgette says:

    Jen, I’ve left similar comments here before but it bears repeating… you are doing an amazing job, period. Life is so hard at times and you know that better than a lot of people. If you look at the Holmes And Rahe Stress Scale, you’ll see that you’ve been thru so many of the top stress inducers….death of family member, pregnancy, addition of new family member, changing jobs, moving you a new city away from family, change in personal habits etc… that’s a lot Jen but look at how well you’re killing it. No, you may not have that perfect body size/ shape/ weight but really, what is considered “perfect”when it comes to those things? It’s subjective and different for everyone. You are taking control of your life back and I am truly inspired. Thank you for being so honest with us even tho I am sure it’s not easy… especially with trolls leaving rude, disgusting comments like you recently had. Keep up the good work, I’m exited to see what great thins you’ll be doing next 🙂

  12. Great article and i love it.

  13. This is such a great reminder that each day is a new day, and it’s not so much about the end goal as the journey. I am not someone who finds joy in exercising. But I want to be healthy and I know in order to be at my best for my family, I need to at least try to be active. I fail often, but it’s ok – tomorrow is a new day. Thank you for the reminder that each day is a new day, and even if it’s not a perfect day, we are all ok!

  14. The answer is inside you. I struggled 40 years. You have the answers, here’s to allowing yourself to do the work. Onward.

  15. Walking is a natural activity and it has many health benefits. It is good to include walking in routine life as it will improve health and keep the body healthy and active. Those people who include walking in routine life are able to live longer and healthy life.

  16. In everything we do, we have or we are, always give thanks. Then we will have happiness in our life. Health is the important things in life then any other else. Keep Strong!

  17. Just believe in WE ARE OKAY!!! we are amazing not perfect but no less than perfect.

  18. Hi Jen;
    You sound happy. You sound positive. You sound humble. Those three things are way more important than anything a “healthy weight life” promises to deliver. Keep beating the system!

  19. Hi Jen,
    You are one of the most positive ladies. Stay positive and stay healthy. Take care of your kid and yes weight does not define anyone.
    All the best

  20. I have also started my own blog. I research extensively. If you could just guide me if any info is wrong in your experience.

  21. 10 years but U made every small steps count. Been here in this blog late but I keep on visiting just to feel a little more motivated with all your words.

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