HAPPY FRIDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
OH SNAP! Good thing I didn't :) Nothing but aqua till August! I'm doing good, still on track!
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Talking about forever, again!
I started to talk about something yesterday that has been weighing heavily on my mind lately.
Since I started the challenge w/ Annabel @ Feed Me I'm Cranky, many of you have jumped
on board. I am so so so excited that ya'll are doing this with us, that you have made the decision to really dedicate your energy towards a goal. But here is where I get stuck. Then what? What happens after August 2nd? Stay with me here, there is progress - I promise!
I got to this point of "then what?" and felt so overwhelmed, which led to my question to MizFit yesterday and the beginning of my thoughts in that holy crapola, this is forever? It blows my mind trying to grasp this concept of what forever feels like, trying to imagine me living like this in 10, 20, 30 or 40 years. FOREVER.
and then it occurred to me last night.....
STOP MAKING IT SO HARD!!!
Here me out... remember that whole bathing suit incident? You know, the time I ACTUALLY WORE ONE! Remember how my statement to myself was "who freakin cares?" (click here to read more). My exact words were...
I was scared, nervous and TERRIFIED to show so much skin! I was scared someone was going to point and laugh. I was scared I would be made fun of and run to the bathroom with tears rolling down my cheeks like some dramatic moment from a high school movie. But my reaction was to do it anyways. Who cares if I wore a swimsuit?! Who cares if I showed my belly which looks like a jiggly water bed (the extra flab skin).
So back to what happens after August 1st - who cares?!!! Yep, see I can apply the same concept. August 2nd is really no big deal unless I make it a big deal. I know what to do. I know what is healthy and what is not. I just need to keep doing the best that I can and taking it one decision at a time. I (and you too!) need to stop thinking about THIS WHOLE BIG THING and just take it one day at a time, one meal at a time, one decision at a time. It's not that big of a deal! I'm quite confident I'm never going to get this 100% right 100% of the time. So all I can do is continue to hope for the best.
That's the key to life (or so it seems to be right now anyways). Life just is. There will always be peppermint patties on my cubie's desk. My mom will always continue to try new recipes. I will always love me some DaVinci Chianti wine. Red Dragon, Tam Tam's, Stella's, El Torro and Big Bowl will always have a menu full of glorious food options. Popcorn will forever be my favorite replacement meal. Life will happen. I will need to learn how to make healthy food decisions when life happens life.
There will always be a party to go to. I will be invited to weddings. Sleeping in will always be more enticing. Movies will always be more exciting then a personal trainer appointment. Vacations will be planned. Guests will visit. I will fall sick. Life will happen. I will need to learn how to make healthy activity decisions when life happens.
That is what happens on August 2nd. Life will happen. I will continue to make decisions as I have. No need to make it a big deal, cause who freakin' cares???!!! aahh...alright, enough of my reflecting rant.
Weekend Plans
Saturday is my nephew's 1st birthday. I can't wait to watch him eat cake for the first time - gonna be so cute! I'm going to the gym on Saturday & Sunday - cuz I told my friend Megan that if she the gym I would go too. Megan, are you reading? I'm doing it, will go. Sunday I have no plans other then to go grocery shopping and try a couple of new recipes from a new cookbook I got. I will share this cookbook with you next week!
Monday Challenge Check-in
Weekends are not free. What you eat on Saturday and Sunday will end up on your ass just the same as what you eat Monday through Friday. Don't kid yourself and give yourself the weekend off. It still counts. Be good this weekend and come back for a challenge check-in
*I have a couple of new sweaty pictures to post, will do Monday w/ the challenge update so if you haven't submitted your sweaty "I mean business and am kicking my extra poundage to the curb" photo, email it to me w/ your a link to your blog and I will post for the world to see!
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My favorite part of your post: "weekends are not free - they will still be on your ass on Monday!"
So true! I can't tell you how many people on WW have their weigh-ins on Friday so they don't have to worry about the weeknd!
Me - my weigh in was always Monday!
Have a great day off and have fun with your nephew! :D
Whoo boy I love that line about weekends are not free! But you know I was thinking that for me, lots of Life Happens on the weekend, which always makes it harder for me. Need to ponder on this awhile...
As I read today, it takes me back to the year of 1999. Does everyone remember back to Dec 31st? What is going to happen...We are going into 2000. Boy, that seems like just yesterday that I was standing in a school gym with a bunch of Champlin Park Marching Band kids and parents. Waiting and Waiting for the clock to get to midnight. I thought the world was going to blow up but guess what? That minute after midnight, nothing happen....still screaming teenagers all around me. Hubby gave me a big kiss and time went on. And so it will be in Aug...Nothing big will happen but hopefully we will be a little lighter that day.
Have a good week end my daughter
Love Mom
I really like this post. My old Weight Watchers leader used to say the same sort of thing as "life happens." She talked about how people always wait to start losing weight. "Right now is not good, because it's the summer. I'll wait until Fall." Then Fall comes, and they say "Oh, I'm so busy with Labor Day, school, etc. I just don't have time right now." And then it's the Holidays! You've got Christmas and New Years, and nobody can lose weight then, right? And then the spring comes and there is Valentine's Day, Spring Break, Easter, Mother's Day, Father's Day, and Memorial Day... Then that brings you back to summer, with all of the vacations and the ice cream, weddings, 4th of July, etc. There is ALWAYS an excuse to not be healthy. ALWAYS. Like you said, Life Happens. It is our choice on whether we want it to be a healthy life. I choose health!
It shouldn't be this hard, but sometimes it is. I think we all could benefit by just taking it one day at a time. One day is much less intimidating then 1 month or 1 year or 10 years. I can do this one day at a time.
I am with you. Thank you for reminding us that weekends are not free. I needed to hear that. I am doing well on the water though. I think for today I actually feel better. I know it will pay off not having sweet tea. All the extra calories from the sugar. I know it will pay off.
it doesn't matter what happens in our lives the world still carries on because you are right, life happens. My weight in is a monday so there is no point in worrying about it all weekend long because it will happen anyway, and it will happen even though I just stuffed a cookie in my mouth that I shouldn't have!!! Only my hips will tell!!!
Helen
ps I love the fact you can now post comments on my blog too!!!
OMG Biz319 seriously wrote exacly what I was about to. I really needed to read something like "weekends are not free" today because I tend to convince myself otherwise.
Keep up the good work girlie!
Great post. I am still diet soda free. I am feeling a different in my moods but I am hoping this frustration will subside. This is evidence that I am addicted!
What you eat on Saturday and Sunday will end up on your ass just the same as what you eat Monday through Friday. Don't kid yourself and give yourself the weekend off.
I AM GETTING THAT PRINTED ON A T SHIRT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!
have a fab weekend beautiful one xxxx
That's exactly right. I'm such a then what person. But every single time w/out fail life just happens. You just keep right on going.
awesome post!
I'm finally embracing the 'forever' mindset, and realizing that as long as i make the good choice more often than i make the bad choice, that's a victory.
I made peace with the fact i splurged on vacation last week, when i've been making healthy choices for the past 6 months. I think you're right; Life Happens. There will always be special events, dinner parties, vacations, celebrations, etc. It's all about finding the balance of what you can maintain long-term for your body's and your mind's happiness and healthiness.
How fun you have a day off! Thanks for the reminder to take it one day at a time. If you think to much about it it's like pondering the universe or life and it's totally overwhelming. Have a great and relaxing long weekend!
Preach it, Jen! You are right on! I need to remember this too, as I am always thinking about the future instead of taking it a day at a time. Thanks for the reminder. You are awesome, as always. :)
Great attitude Jen, I agree with every since one of your sentences, you are right life will happen and we are only human, as long as we keep fighting we will all be winners in the end.
Jen! I loved this post -- like truly adored it! You're dead on. I mean, not gonna lie, it is hard to change our habits and live this new lifestyle blah blah blah, but it certainly doesn't have to be THAT hard and it's certainly something we can manage. I know there have been times i've said, "ok i just need to get through this weekend since there's that party and then that dinner thing" but the truth is, temptation and social events centering around food will ALWAYS be there and unless we want to just isolate ourselves in a cave in the middle of no where, we better just get used to it and embrace the opportunity to prove to ourselves that this is a life-long challenge that we are conquering.
Loved it Jen. Have a wonderful weekend! "See" you on Monday! We're ALMOST THERE!!!!!!
Jen!! Thanks for the post, it was exactly what I needed to read right now!!!
I've been working like a crazy chick at the gym every day and reading your post about one day at a time, one decision at a time was like a lightbulb going off...
thank you!!! I hope you have a great weekend!
You are 100% correct, Jen. You'll just live your life, mindfully, and lots of these new habits will become second nature.
I say this because twenty years ago today I didn't have a drink of alcohol, and haven't had one since. That summer is when I started exercising and stopped grazing and bingeing. (It was a big summer!) And I can't begin to tell you how profoundly grateful I am for that. I remember thinking to myself -- do I want to feel like this at forty? Do I want this low-grade constant misery for the next ten years? Twenty years? Or am I willing to walk through some high-grade short-term misery (the misery of changing habits, which does not last) for the pay-off of a happier, better life?
Twenty years later I am profoundly grateful that I was willing to change. It's been a great twenty years! I am so happy you've made that decision for yourself, too. ANd you sharing your journey helps me continue my own, so thank you!
i hate to admit but i totally thought you actually did give in to the coffee crack this morning - but then i remembered your the toughest chick ever ;)
mizfits really struck a chord with me yesterday when she said shes been eating healthy for *insert number here* (i forget how many years it was, but i know it was a buttload!) i was in awe of how long she'd been doing it for -- but then i realized.. healthy eating isnt supposed to be a challenge -- it's a lifestyle we may choose to adopt. it's not all about eating "low calorie/low fat" foods or being so consumed with each and every calorie that enters our body -- its about being conscience of the KINDS of food we're chowin' down on.. learning to listen to our hunger cues, and living a life of moderation. Sounds good to me :)
jeeze, talk about ramblin' .. my apologies that i officially blew up your comments :)
Why not set another health-related goal beginning August 2nd. It doesn't have to be a goal to lose more weight.
Why not set a goal of being at your August 1st weight on November 1st plus or minus 2 lbs. Then the challenge becomes finding the balance that MizFit was talking about in order to sustain what you have achieved.
I think someone should always have goals. However, from a health perspective, the goals don't always have to be related to losing more weight.
I suspect you are going to achieve your goal on July 31st, if you haven't already.
Celebrate it and set another goal.
Have fun on your day off! It felt so great for me to have off Wed. and Thurs even if I was a little sick! You are right, it is important to be healthy each day and not stress too much about the future!
Have a great weekend! Yes, life does happen and it's very exciting... but somehow I bet you're more in the driver's seat than you were 100 pounds ago. And that, my friend, is awesome!
Great post - hope you are enjoying your day off!
Good for You ! You can only think in terms of one day at a time or you will get too caught up !!!!! Your going to be FINE ! I have every confidence in you !
Jealous of the unplanned day off! Would have loved one of those today...
I had a period when I was getting CLOSE to a goal weight where I started thinking heavily about maintaining. It was kinda stressin' me out and I kept wondering how I was going to do it and then I realized: why not just get there first and worry about it then? Since then I have come to find that I am SUPER good at maintaining! Now, to get back to that place where I was losing again...hmmm...
Happy weekend!!!!
Sorry I did not comment earlier.
I was having a nice hot cup of coffee
Mmmmm, coffee!!!!!!!!!!!!
What did I say.................
Trying to catch up after being a little distracted this week. Haven't really had time to read everyone's blogs. So I missed the giveaway. Will have to wait for another. :-)
Yes, the important thing to remember is that TODAY you need to make healthy choices. Then tomorrow will be today and for that day, we need to make healthy choices. It helps me to keep my eye focused on the immediate picture, not the TOTAL PICTURE, which can be totally overwhelming. (In more ways than just our own health!)
I am even MORE amazed at your 99 minutes on the stairmonster. I did 10 flights of stairs in the hospital yesterday and my calves are screaming at me today. And making me whimper every time I stand up! I'm hobbling like a 90yo! :-P
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{There will always be a party to go to. I will be invited to weddings. Sleeping in will always be more enticing. Movies will always be more exciting then a personal trainer appointment. Vacations will be planned. Guests will visit. I will fall sick. Life will happen. I will need to learn how to make healthy activity decisions when life happens.}
well put! i love it. and it's a great reminder. thanks for this, jen.
enjoy the birthday bash! and happpppy weekend, love bug!
xoxoxo
You're so right and it completely messed with my head when I started thinking about how I was going to have to do this forever and ever and ever.
It still is - I want to figure out a way I can keep peanut butter, bread, even chocolate in the house without knowing I'll eat it all at once and I think I might have to start training myself on that one while I still have 20lbs to lose rather than think it'll all happen magically once I get to goal!
I posted my sweaty post-run pic on my blog today too just for fun!
Keep at it!
-CJ
i dont have any sweaty ass pictures because i have not been working out in appropriate ways in the last few days.. hopefully i will get myself up to snuff and be able to ass-kick myself.. lol
Well said girl, well said
I love the feeling of not knowing what will happen next. It's exciting that until you get to that point you might not know what you will want. New challenges perhaps? Or just keep going and enjoying things as they are for a while.
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